MIKA - Big Girl
This has been the office’s theme today!
Anonymous asked: i'm 18 and i have the biggest, legitimate crush on my 26 year old "boss" of sorts (i volunteer). we have a LOT in common and always make each other laugh. we have each other's cell phone numbers--but don't text because of the professional aspect that we have (i dont even know why we exchanged numbers, but i do remember it was his idea). i am falling fast for him and he doesn't even know it. is that too much of an age difference?! what are your thoughts on this whole situation?! thanks dudes.
Well are you in High School? If so you definitely need to wait after you get out. As far as the age in general, it isn’t tooo extreme, can’t stop love, ya know? (it’s all how you feel about it, and him. Be sure you aren’t liking because he is older, and be sure he isn’t just being creepy.)
Anonymous asked: All right guys - what are the top three questions you WANT to be asked on a first date; and three questions you hope we women DON'T ask about on first date??
The situation: Met on match.com. Emailed a couple times. Exchanged phone numbers. He gave me his number first, and I texted him mine. I iniated texting M, Tu, Wed, (gotta let breath Thurs), Fri, and he said he'd get in touch Sun. He followed thru. We text for anywhere between one hour and several. He said he got a black berry about a year ago and stopped talking on the phone as much. He's said 'outgoing' doesn't come natural, but he's working on being more social. I'm total extrovert/outgoing 90% of the time. He had me fooled, so I think he's doing well. Lol. We chat, misc questions.. details about some random things, nothing too deep. Nothing sexual at all. I mean really, there's no need for sexting before you meet someone if there's a chance of it being a real relationship outcome, am I wrong?!? Both of us equally as curious as the other. We're meeting for dinner Tuesday night. He asked me out. Though we had a mutual conversation about meeting up. He's more polite than most when we've had texting nights. Any other advice I should ask for? He's 32, I'm 26. He's a cook. I'm an administrative assistant. He lives alone, bought his house a year ago. I live with two gals and rent. We both moved to our city/state from other states about 2 years ago.
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I understand the not wanting to call and just texting thing. Kinda how it just is now. Definitely don’t rush the sexting. And my best advice is just to drive yourself. Meet up where you are going to meet up. This is just to be sure, and he should respect that. And also don’t end up in his bed on the first night! Keep him wanting it!
pigfarts-potter asked: Is it bad to go on a date (or hang out) with a guy you're pretty sure you don't like?
Going on a date or two is actually very nice, he’ll enjoy that much. But if you lead him on beyond that, you are doing him an injustice!
Anonymous asked: So, there's this guy I've been checking out. And I'm pretty sure he's started to noticed >.< which is cool, I guess. Why should I be embarrassed? My friend has tried to introduce me, but I blew her off...and every time I get a chance, I blow it off. What should I do? He's probably not even interested, but still.
Fuck that shit. Go talk to him! But you have to screw the “he isn’t interested” attitude, and replace it with a “this fool doesn’t really dissever my time, but I’ll be nice!” Good luck! He’s yours! :]
swearbythefrecklesonthemoon asked: Okay.. I will attempt to give it to you in a nutshell, because this a story that has span over a year. Basically, I had a wondreful relationship with my ex-boyfriend, who is three years older than I, and we had to break up last year because we had conflicting schedules and never saw one another. But, we were bad at being 'broken up'. We had 'friends with benefits' but I hate to use that term because it sounds so crude. We acted as if we were dating except for the fact of not saying "I love you" and not caling one another boy/girlfriend. Fast forward to me getting upset with him and us mutually deciding to break off the friends with benefits. Well .. we see eachother again and it happens .. again. SO, finally, we stop fooling around together in May. And he tells me he wishes we could date but he knew we were too busy for it to work successfully. A couple days later, he is dating a new girlfriend. We'll call her Hayden. Hayden apparently promised her virginity to him BEFORE they even dated. (btw... my ex-boyfriend and I never had sex. We were both virgins. Though, he did talk about it a lot and we were seriously considering it for a long time). Anyway, it's been about six or seven months of their relationship. And, from what I've gathered: they sleep together and fight. And she is a high-maintenance jealous bitch towards him. I've never met the girl, but if he's being honest when he explaisn the stuff she does, she would be a bitch in my book... And, anyway... he always talks about how they fight and how she is unrealistic. And then, in the same conversations, he goes on to tel lme I am so sweet and so nice and he could never be mean to me. Like, we will be having a normal conversation and he'll just say "You are just so nice." and just similar things of that nature -- just out of the blue. Another big thing ... we almost got in a really bad fight a few weeks ago, on account of him making an inappropriate comment about me. When I told him I was upset with him, he told me how important I was to him and that he never wanted to offend me. He told me he respected me remendously and that I am "one of my only two friends. You and Alan." (Alan is his best friend since grade school -- he is a junior in college, now.). And, finally... my ex-boyfriend keeps asking/practically begging me to attend the college he attends. Hayden does not attend this college. And I believe she would kill me if I went there. Hayden also expects my ex to change his whole life to fit what she wants. Including her 'dream' to move to a different country after college. After all of this ... I made the highly non-professional hypothesis that he is scared/intimidated by her .. becasue she is not a nice person. And becasue she was the first girl he slept with. I think that he is wanting me in his life becasue I am kind to him no matter what. But he stays with her because of the sex. I am so sorry this is so long.. but this has literally been consuming my mind since ... May. I just need to figure out what is going on. I need to know what he is trying to do. What does it seem like he is doing? Trying to get me back? Or wanting to keep me around as the 'back-up plan'? And, if it wasn't obvious in my long rant -- I am still very fond of him. I care deeply for him, and I do not want to see him get hurt. And if I had to answer if I were still attracted to him romantically -- I would probably have to lean towards a yes.
THANK YOU SO MUCH. I appreciate it endlessly.
Sorry it took me so long to answer, we just moved offices yesterday. We don’t mind the long questions, keep them coming!
To wrap it all up, it seams that he really likes you, and wants to be with you. It probably is for the sex, and because he doesn’t feel like you really like him. Especially since you have been okay with him being with someone else. I know you were doing the mature thing, since that was where the relationship was, but if you still like him you need to tell him. If I know this guy as well as I think I do, I believe that he would be okay with being with you with or without the sex.
Anonymous asked: Date update! So last night went sooooo good! We met up and he was charming and funny and conversation was really good, we laughed a lot and I feel like we really hit it off! I made sure to touch his arm a lot and be really flirty. AND he was a super gentleman, opened like every door for me & paid for everything :) After walking around the christmas lights we weren't ready to go home yet so we went and did a little christmas shopping together & he helped me pick out a sweet gift for my brother. After shopping, he ended up driving me home (since I had bussed there) and said that he really wanted to see me again before he went home for christmas (on the 21st) and then I totally chickened out on the goodnight kiss!! arg! I went for the big hug but as soon as I got in the door I was like boooo fail, shoulda kissed him. Do you think he'll think I'm not that into him because I didn't kiss him? I really don't wanna fall into the friend zone :( !! Also, should I wait for him to text or call me, or could I send like a cheeky "thx again for last night I had lots of fun with you" -esque text?
This is soo great to hear!!!! He sounds like a really good guy!
As far as the kiss: You want him to think you might not like him. Sounds bad, but it’ll drive him crazy! But next date he better get at least a peck :)
If you are going to text after the first date it should be the following morning, just “Thanks :)”
It’ll keep you fresh, but not desperate.
Let him arrange the second date. But you should completely plan #3 if you are into him!
Anonymous asked: Who runs this blog?
We are just a couple of guys (6, sometimes more) who all work on other blogs (professionally). We all have the password for this account and any of us can answer questions, though we usually end up having debates over it all.
Anonymous asked: ok so this one is straightforward:
Hair down there, what is acceptable and what is completely not?
Most of the guys in the office agreed that they like it trimmed, or as clean as a whistle! A bush is defiantly a no no!
Here is the max any girl should have (NSFW!)
